Interesting things to know about you?

Who are the main people in your lives?

What are your interests? Music, sport, hobbies etc?

What is your current relationship status and relevant relationship history?

What is your family situation? Partner? Children? Extended family?

Have you told your children about your surrogacy plans? If they have been informed, how have they responded? If they have not yet been informed, how would this occur, when and how do you feel they will respond?

Are your parents / step parents still alive? Are they in good health? If no longer alive, when did they pass away?

Are your parents / step parents still together/divorced/remarried?

Do you have any siblings or step siblings? If so, what is their marital status, and the ages of any children they may have?

Are you genetically related to your parents and any siblings?

What level of schooling did you complete? Have you completed any further study or achieved any additional qualifications?

Do you work outside the home? What is your current occupation? How long have you been in this role?

How flexible is your workplace if you need to take time off?

Have you told your family about your surrogacy plans? If so, what was they response?

Is your family comfortable with you doing this? How might it affect them? Are they willing to support your decision if you choose to do this?

If you haven’t told people, do you intend to? If so, when might you do this? How might you explain your pregnancy to others including your children, friends, family, and people in the supermarket?

Outside of your family, who have you told about your surrogacy plans? How have they responded?

Are you a member of any surrogacy related support groups?

Have you experienced or been diagnosed with any mental health issues in the past? If so, how were you treated or helped? Eg depression, anxiety, psychosis or any serious psychological conditionsHave you experienced or been diagnosed with any mental health issues in the past? If so, how were you treated or helped? Eg depression, anxiety, psychosis or any serious psychological conditions

Are you currently undergoing any treatment for a mental health issue or experiencing any mental health issues which you do not receive or seek treatment for?

Do any of your family members suffer from or have experienced a mental health issue?

Do you smoke cigarettes or other tobacco products?

What is your usual weekly alcohol consumption?

Do you use recreational drugs? If so, how often?

How often do you gamble?

How would you rate your health?

What do you do to stay healthy?

Do you have any health or medical issues?

Do you or your extended family have any medical conditions that might affect the pregnancy?

Did you enjoy your previous pregnancies?

Can you tell me about your previous pregnancies? Have you ever had a termination, miscarriage, stillbirth or relinquished a child for adoption? What were your previous births like?

Do you wish to or plan to have any more children? Did you have any health concerns during previous pregnancies e.g. serious morning sickness, gestational diabetes, pre-eclampsia etc?

Did you experience any Post Natal Depression or anxiety or any other mental health concerns during or following previous pregnancies? If so, what did you do?

What do you know about the medical procedures involved in being a surrogate?

Are you comfortable with having injections, internal ultrasounds and embryo transfer procedures and the possible risks they entail?

What do you do to relax or unwind?

What are the sources of stress in your life? How do you cope with them?

What strengths and support do you have that will help you navigate the surrogacy journey?

How would you manage with treatment and work including looking after your own children?

What makes you interested in carrying for your IPs?

How long have you been thinking about being a surrogate?

What attracted you to your IPs?

Have you ever been a surrogate for anyone else?

Is this the right time for you to be a surrogate? What else is going on in your life right now?

Have you ever donated eggs or embryos before?

What are your motivations for being a surrogate?

What do you think will be the most challenging aspects of the surrogacy journey for you and your family?

What do you think will be the most rewarding aspects of the surrogacy journey for you and your family?

How do you think you would cope if surrogacy was unsuccessful?

Are you aware that either party can change their minds at any time during the surrogacy arrangement?

Have you obtained legal advice yet?

Are you aware of the non-legal binding of a surrogacy arrangement?

What would be the plan for the child if before the birth the IPs relationship broke down and they separated? Have you discussed this with surrogate/IPs?

What would be the plan for the child if before the birth one or both of the IPs became seriously ill? Have you discussed this with surrogate/IPs?

What would be the plan for the child if before the birth one or both of the IPs died? Have you discussed this with surrogate/IPs? Who decides the fate of the child? Will the child be for “open adoption” or “family adoption”?

Are you aware that at birth the surrogate is the legal parent until parentage is transferred to the IPs at a later stage?

When & how will you tell family about transfer?

When & how will you tell friends about transfer?

When will you announce pregnancy to the wider community/facebook/publicly?

When& how will you make milestones public?

When & how will you announce pregnancy to family?

Do you want to attend birthing classes? (eg Calmbirth)

Your ideas for three people that can look after the children?

Do you imagine there will be any future contact between the child and the surrogate’s children?

What qualities and abilities do the IPs have that would make them good parents?

What are the differences in your parenting styles and attitudes (between the IPs & surrogate)? Do you see this having any future impact?

Have you discussed your attitudes to any religious or cultural practices e.g. circumcision?

What are your thoughts about life insurance?

What are your thoughts about private health insurance?

Who will purchase pregnancy tests & any other equipment needed throughout?

Who will purchase maternity clothes?

How often are you happy to provide/pay for a babysitter for appointments if family are not available?

Would your family be happy to babysit so we can all attend appointments? If not how will you arrange childminding for your surrogate to attend appointments.

If appointments are booked on her day off from work how will you compensate the time she misses out on running errands or other domestic duties? How often are you happy to provide/pay for a babysitter to allow time to rest?

What are your thoughts on using alternative therapies and which ones would you be happy to use?

Do you have a budget for alternative therapies / how do you feel about covering the cost for these services?

How do you feel about covering travel expenses to/from appointments? (petrol & parking)

Are you able to cover wages of surrogate (& partner if they need to take time off to care for surrogate/children) if it is necessary during pregnancy to stop working? Is there a cap on this?

Are you able to cover wage post birth if it is necessary due to surrogacy related medical issues? Is there a time frame / budget cap on this?

What arrangements made regarding childcare during pregnancy and confinement if required?

How will expenses be paid for? By whom? How will you monitor expenses?

 It can take a long time to compete all the steps before we commence treatment (medical, legal and counselling appointments and approval from the Patient Review Panel). How much time are you prepared to commit to this?

Once the surrogacy application has ben approved – is there a limit to the number of treatment cycles the surrogate will undertake?

How many transfers are you comfortable with? If the first or second embryo transfer were not successful would you be prepared to try again? The IVF process may not be successful. How would you feel if you do not become pregnant or miscarry?If an egg and/or sperm donor are being used – are you comfortable with this?

Are you aware there are health risks to you during the pregnancy and the birth?

How would the surrogate conduct herself during the pregnancy in relation to alcohol consumption, smoking or other drug use?

How would the surrogate conduct herself during the pregnancy in relation to lifestyle factors such as diet or exercise?

Are there any medications or health supplements  the surrogate may be taking during the pregnancy? Is there any potential impact from these on a foetus?

Have you discussed who will attend routine medical appointments with the surrogate during the conception and pregnancy?

Have you discussed and planned how many embryos are to be transferred and/or how many attempts will be made? (may depends on clinic or state legislation)

Who will attend appointments?

How would you feel about a multiple birth? What is your position on selective reduction?

How involved does the surrogate want the IPs to be during the pregnancy? How involved do the IPs want to be during the pregnancy? Do you want to attend all appointments together?How will you all get to appointments? What if one person can’t drive (eg in third trimester)?

Who will accompany (if anyone) surrogate to clinical appointments / procedures etc?

Does the surrogate want the IPs in the consultation / procedure at the same time?

What is your attitude towards prenatal screening? How do you feel about the Harmony/NIPT test?

What tests regarding the baby’s health and wellbeing would you consider having?

Does the surrogate give consent for the clinic to give results etc to the IPs? Written consent will be required.

Would you like to find out the gender of the baby? Would you be disappointed if it were to remain unknown? What are your thoughts on one or two knowing and not the other/nobody else?

What is your attitude towards termination of the pregnancy if a child is diagnosed before birth with a disability or abnormality? Who decides upon a termination?

If the IPs wished to legally terminate the pregnancy in the case of disability or abnormality, and the surrogate refused, what would be the plan for the subsequent care of the child?

What if the surrogate thought there should be a termination and the IPs disagreed?

What would be the plan for the child if a child was born disabled or with a serious medical condition and the IPs were unwilling or unable to take them on?

Have you discussed the possibility that for a health child the surrogate may refuse to relinquish the child? How would this situation be handled?

Have you discussed the possibility that for a health child the IPs may refuse to take on the child? How would this situation be handled?

How do you feel about Whooping Cough/Influenza/other vaccinations?

Have you discussed the possible medical complications that may occur for both the surrogate and the child?

How would the surrogate manage with pregnancy and work including looking after her own children?

If the surrogate became sick during the pregnancy and needed bed rest or hospitalisation, how would this be managed? What support would be provided?

If miscarriage occurs, where will procedure (d&c) be undertaken?

What are your agreed arrangements in the case of a stillbirth? Who will make decisions regarding autopsy, funeral etc.?

How often would you like to have group counselling, at a minimum? (Recommendation: once monthly/minimum once every 3 months)

How do you feel about having a baby shower, gender reveal, etc?

How do you feel about the weeks leading up to the birth?

What is your ideal birth? Where would you want baby to be delivered? What is the surrogate’s preferred birth plan?

Where will the birth will occur? Eg. home birth, natural birth, hospital etc. Is everybody comfortable with this?

Choice of obstetrician & hospital you would prefer?

Discussion regarding type of delivery?

Medications during labour?

Who will pack hospital bags?

Who will be contacted with information regarding commencement of delivery? Grandparents, aunts, uncles, children etc……Who would you like to attend the birth? (In addition to IPs & surrogate, surrogate’s partner)

Your thoughts on photography during pregnancy?

Your thoughts on photography & video during labour?

Your thoughts on delayed cord clamping?

Who will cut the cord?

How do you feel about Syntocin injection to induce the birth of the placenta?

Immediately post birth, who will baby go to? Have you discussed who will hold the baby first?

Have you discussed and planned how and when the surrogate will separate from the child and the IPs will take over the care of the child?

How do you feel about breastfeeding? How do you feel about expressing?

What are the arrangements for the remainder of the “rooming in” period? (discussion with hospital/birth centre may be required regarding this)

IPs to have additional room?

If a hospital stay is required who will look after the children & help keep surrogate’s house running? What happens if she is out on extended bed rest?

What are the arrangements for the discharge of baby from the hospital? Including in the scenario where the surrogate needs to stay, will the IPs take baby home before the surrogate is discharged? Is the hospital okay with this?

Has the surrogate made any special requests regarding the separation process? Are the IPs happy to accommodate these requests?

Has the surrogate imagined what it will be like handing over the baby to the IPs? Does she have any concerns about her ability to do this?

How would the surrogate deal with the possible grief that she may experience due to her body’s hormonal response?

Have you thought about possible complications occurring at birth or if the child was delivered and was very sick or disabled?

Where will everyone sleep on the first night and for the few nights there after?

Who will help surrogate out for 6 weeks after birth, and help her with her children?

How do you feel about immunisations/injections for baby? (Vit K / Hep B etc)

How do you feel about surrogate baby cuddles in the first few days? And thereafter? How will you arrange this? And how often? How does the surrogate think she will feel in the first few days and weeks following the birth?What contact is it planned the surrogate will have with the child in the immediate period (weeks/months) following birth?

How often would you like to have contact after the birth? In the first few days? Weeks? Months? And thereafter? And what type of contact?

If caesarian birth is required, what arrangements will be made to support the surrogate at home after the birth?

What ongoing contact and communication is it planned there will be between the child and the surrogate and her family?

How will this contact and communication be managed?

What relationship and role does each person plan to play in the child’s life?

What role do you imagine the surrogate having in the child’s life?

What will the child call the surrogate?

Have there been any conflicts that have arisen during the surrogacy process so far? If so, what were they? And how were they resolved?

Have you agreed on how any future conflicts related to the pregnancy or during the pregnancy would be addressed? If so, what process would be followed?